From Golf Prodigy to Dating Master: A Journey of Fundamentals

Golf and Me: A Decade of Dedication

When I was a kid, I spent 10 years honing my golf skills. With a +2 handicap and an All-American title in college, I thought I was naturally gifted. My coach, John Anselmo, who also trained Tiger Woods, seemed like a lucky find.

My False Start in Dating

In 2006, I dived into the dating world, thinking it would be as easy as golf. I took bootcamps and read self-help books. I tried everything, from weird clothes to deep conversations. It didn't work.

The Turning Point: Focus and Fundamentals

I was overwhelmed with advice. So I chose one method and stuck to it. I focused on basics and took massive action. I faced rejection but didn't quit. Now, I attract incredible women just by being myself.

The Good News: You Don't Need to Be Perfect

Here's a story. Two guys are in a jungle, a tiger chases them. One guy puts on running shoes. Why? He doesn't need to outrun the tiger, just his friend. In dating, you're that first guy. You don't have to be perfect, just better than most men.

What Women Really Want: The Basics

Ask any woman and she'll say most guys mess up basic things like grooming and style. Some try to buy her love or show off wealth. You just need to be better than these guys.

The Zero-Sum Game of Dating

In dating, if you win, other guys lose. But you don’t have to be perfect at everything, just better than your competition.

The Power of Being Dynamic

Scott Adams, the guy behind Dilbert, says you can either be the best at one thing or very good at multiple things. For dating, option two is better. Be dynamic. Improve in a few key areas, and you'll stand out.

Key Fundamentals for Quick Gains

Treat dating like a sport. Focus on key skills like being in good shape, conversation, social circle, career, and style. Ignore the small stuff, like memorizing pickup lines.

The Bottom Line: Don't Let Perfect Be the Enemy of Good

You don't have to be perfect. Just be exceptional in a few categories and solid in your fundamentals. That's how you win in dating, just like in any other game.