All Of My Friends Are Losers. How can I Find New Ones?

How you do anything is how you do everything.

The people you choose to associate with reflects on your character.

It's crucial to surround yourself with guys who are better than you if you want to become better with women.

Women are attracted to social status more than anything else, and one of the most important ways to show (not tell) your status is by being a leader or providing value in a group of other attractive men.

This is why I always talk about how improving your dating life is more than just knowing how to attract; it's about being a complete man who's attractive to women.

So what do you do if all your friends are losers? Ditch the losers so you’re in a sink or swim situation. If you have no social contact, you’ll have no choice but to force yourself outside of your comfort zone to meet new people.

And do it for your own mental health too; we naturally absorb the attitudes, thoughts, and actions of the people around us, so remaining in friendships with toxic people hurts you. It’s a subconscious process that psychologists call “convergence.”

Identify what kind of friends you’d like to make, and start participating in the activities that these people do.

Are they into physical fitness?

Join a Crossfit gym.

Are they businesspeople?

Hang out at the country club.

Do they play chess?

Join a chess tournament.

Not sure who you’d like to meet?

Pick up a side job in retail and start talking to your coworkers.

Want to meet fun people while learning a new social skill?

Do improv comedy.

Just start doing something, absorb your experience as feedback, and adjust your actions from there.

By encountering people with similar interests to you in a natural environment, it’s easy for you to make friendships when you both start to gradually reveal more personal information about yourselves.In order to become friends with people, you need to provide some value to them. This can be as simple and straightforward as being a good listener. If people feel comfortable and at ease around you, they’ll want to form a friendship with you.

The Four Types of Male Friendships

Men tend to have friendships that fall into one of four categories. If you understand these categories, you'll know how to keep your loser friends at a distance and how to build valuable connections with others.

Just Friends

Just friends are guys you see from time to time and have surface-level connections with. It could be a poker buddy or a guy you see often at the gym. The distinction here is that it's someone you don't intend to get to know better or see in a different situation. Sometimes a wingman will fall into this category- he's someone you'll go out with but don't have any kind of lasting bond.

Rust Friends

Rust friends are the friends you've had your whole life. It could be a childhood best friend or someone else you've known most of your life. You may have different priorities and values now, but the length of your bond is what sustains the friendship. These aren't necessary deep friendships- they're just old ones.

Trust Friends

Trust friends are friends who you've established a close bond with. Having this kind of friend to support you is crucial. You can share your challenges with them and they'll help you get through them. They'll help you meet women and you know you can count on them.

Must Friends

Must friends are friends who you "must" share everything with. They're your deepest source of a masculine bond, and they form your inner circle. While it takes a long time with a lot of shared experiences to form, these are the types of lifelong friendships we cultivate in the The Inner Confidence Community.

Having women in your life is great, but you can supercharge both your dating and your social lives by surrounding yourself with successful men and mentors.