The Truth About Height

Don't let something you can't change become an excuse.

I am not a small guy, but I've had a unique experience. I am 5'11 170 pounds, and I am only attracted to tall athletic girls, 5'8-5'11.

That means that they're taller than me when they wear heels, so most of the time I meet a woman out, she'll be taller than me.

Tall girls have issues about being big, but a 6'5, 240 pound guy makes them feel small.

Most women who are 5'8 and up want to date really tall guys so they can feel small in their arms.I am by far the shortest and smallest guy any of my girlfriends has ever dated- they always went very far out of their way to let me know this. 

I dated a girl who was engaged to a professional baseball player who was 6'5. Another ex was dating a minor league hockey player before me. This dude was the Incredible Hulk.

And another ex dated a guy on a college football team who was like 6'6, 230lbs, 8% body fat. Her ex before that played major league baseball.

My current girlfriend, who is the shortest girl I've dated in 13 years, was a godsend. She is just under 5'6, so surely she would appreciate how tall I am. Nope! Her ex was 6'8 played pro tennis, and ex before that was 6'3 model.

If you guys think you are somehow in a different boat than me, you are wrong. 5'0-5'5 girls are not an option for me because I'm not attracted to them. That leaves me 5'6-6'0 girls.

By and large 5'11 to 6'0 girls aren't gong to be into me, so that leaves me 4 inches worth of girls to pull from (remember that 5'9 and 5'10 girls want 6'2+ guys).

I'm in your boat because I'm the "little guy" trying to pull chicks who want much larger guys, so I know what it's like hitting on taller women.

How do I combat this?

Personality. I'm charismatic and confident. Every single girl I've ever dated at one point or another has said "I feel so safe with you."

Anyone who knows me knows that I have very clear boundaries and I'll let people know the second they cross them. I think this is what makes the girls feel like I'm strong and they feel protected (which they all say).

Add in some interesting stories, some mentor game, charisma, appear to be a hot commodity, make sure that there's nothing visual about you that's repellent, and suddenly the height factor vanishes.

They don't see your height. They see your other positive attributes.My buddy Jeremy is 5'6 and doesn't have a Napoleon Complex. He is chill and easygoing, but he has a stern voice and it's clear that if he is pushed he'll let you know to stop.

He has consistently pulled girls his height and taller, and this is what he had to say on the subject:

Although height can be an important factor in attraction, it mainly comes down to protection and feeling safe. That has to do with attitude and confidence. Not attitude in a douchey way, but you need to show you're somebody who is not a pushover. When you stand up for a girl or someone else in a vulnerable position, women find it incredibly sexy.

Here is what another shorter friend had to say:

I am just over 5'7, I just look even shorter because I'm always hanging out with taller guys. Attitude is everything, but that does not mean being a Napoleon. A lot of shorter guys have SFC (short fucker complex) and try to overcompensate, which only makes it even more clear that you are not confident.>Women feel safe when they know that you are confident and that you will protect them if necessary, but not when they feel like you go over the top to prove that you're a man because you're short. I have very clear boundaries and if you cross them, you'll be let known in a stern way that exudes confidence but not compensation. I always get the "I feel safe with you" which is simply a function of confidence.Yes, I consistently pull 5'8 or 5'9 chicks who are much taller than me when in heels. I have to make up for that with personality, charisma, and be more fun and interesting than the taller guys. It is a disadvantage, but if there's one thing a girl loves more than anything, it's having fun and laughing. I also think power plays into it too.

If you hang out with the mods in our community, you can instantly see that most of the guys in our group can turn the lights on in a room with the air of confidence, power, and charisma. 

Robbie speaks in front of large groups of people, and you can feel that energy when he walks into a room. There is a level of confidence that communicates you are powerful to a woman. It's not necessarily what you do for a living, but how you feel about it and how you portray yourself. 

Find your strengths and leverage them.

So there you have it guys. Height can be a disadvantage, but it's certainly something that you can overcome by developing your personality and positive attributes.