3 Ways To A Read Woman's Subtle Social Cues...
Social cue: a verbal or nonverbal hint that guides conversation and other social interactions.
The Crucial Role of Social Cues
I want to go in depth regarding the importance of recognizing social cues and understanding why an engaging and successful interaction with a girl completely depends upon them. The importance of this topic can't be overstated!
Social cues are an example of behaving the way others anticipate us to, and living up to expectations of how we're supposed to interact with each other. When we behave in a way that makes other people feel comfortable, we do it by igniting the right kind of emotions within others and not setting off any alarms or behaving unfavorably. By doing this, we can ensure they don't become defensive and as a result, we can become closer to them.
Not only that, but we can also persuade and encourage certain behaviors from others towards us in ways we're looking for, by acting on and manipulating both incoming and outgoing social cues.
Types of Social Cues
Keep in mind that social cues can be positive or negative.
Examples of social cues include facial expressions, vocal tone, mood, direction of gaze, body posture, movement, hand gestures, types of eye contact, paralinguistic cues, passive-aggressive behaviors such as walking away or telling someone you will call them back and then failing to do so, proximity, orientation, and physical appearance (dress).
Knowing how to carry yourself takes a great deal of focus on not only your own behavior and habits, but just as importantly, reading into other persons' behaviors, body language and choice of wording in order to ideally adjust your behavior in response to theirs.
Pay Attention to Her Cues
Why it's important to pay attention to signals and cues girls put out there:
In my research for this piece, I came across numerous articles stating how studies have shown that lonely people tend to misread social cues - if this isn't a sign to be socially savvy, I don't know what is.
Social cues give you insight into what makes her happy, sad, uncomfortable, turned on, turned off, upset, excited, back off... or: I'm into you, I'm not sure whether or not I like you, I'm bored, I wanna party, I want to have sex, etc.
Not only does having a healthy social life rely on social cues, but when addressed properly, understanding them well and adjusting your behavior in response properly will lead to more successful social interactions, guaranteed.
Missing Out Due to Negligence
When you don't notice and/or improperly act on social cues, you miss all kinds of social windows and openings.
These can include an opportunity for a kiss, a hand touch, or a hug. In fact, you could miss out on talking to her in the first place entirely if you're not reading her social cues and signals effectively. Not only that, but when a guy just can't take a hint... how annoying is that?!
I recently went on vacation to Eastern Europe where I met a man sitting next to me at a lunch, who was probably the most socially ignorant person I've ever met. He talked to me about intense gamer code theories for almost an hour, completely oblivious to the glaring signals of disinterest I was putting out: zero eye contact, on my phone, no idea if and when he'd ask me a question and when I did figure out it was time to answer, I'd tell him I had no clue what he said ... to which he'd continue on another tangent.
It's Time to Step Up, Guys
Some tips on giving A+ energy: stand up straight with good posture, introduce yourself in social situations, make confident eye contact, smile at the right moments (with practice it will come), look everyone in the eye, pay some attention when and when not to laugh, and what and what not to say.
When I meet a guy who "gets it" and is actually on point, this is a huge attractor for me, personally. It shows me that you're smart, and up to speed. There's nothing sexier than when I meet someone who is with-it, has a take-charge attitude and is affectionate in just the right way.
This is what men who are successful with women are made of, and these three traits in particular tend to result in: attraction from me to you!
Once you're with someone like this, your standards won't go ever go back down so it really is on the guys to step up to the competition to get my attention or better yet, attraction from me... and social cues play a very relevant role in achieving this.
That's all for today...
xoxo, Viva